Monday, January 22, 2007

More On Kids

The family meeting (which is what they call DHS telling Mom why she is getting the kids taken away) and the actual court was horrific. Found out more about why they are taking the children and got to watch my niece fall apart. Horrific.

We may get them today or tomorrow. Already talked with the caseworker on how to avoid what happened last time from happening again. (burnout on my family's part)We are coming from a better place this time-- both of my kids are in school all day so they get a big break during the day. My son is all for it, my daughter is cautious and wants to know how long.

How things will be different:
  • We are only taking two.
  • The state will give me money for some in home assistance and outside day care.
  • My bil and sil are becoming certified respite caregivers for us and will be taking the girls overnight from 5pm to 5pm once a week.
  • The children will have twice weekly visits with Mom.
  • They will be taking the girls to all doctor appointments.
  • The oldest girl will be going to Headstart.

So it will be very different from last time. I've learned a lot and realize that my own energy source is much more limited than what it was when my babies were, well, babies. I have to work. It is important to me and my family. I have worked hard for my career and I love it. I think that is part of what went wrong last time.

But my heart does break for the boy. Am praying that grandma and grandpa will be able to take him.

Okay, off to get work done while I'm able!


Bonnie Ferguson said...

You rock, Teri :)

Rachel Vincent said...

This story breaks my heart. You guys are wonderful for giving up so much of your time and space to help. ;-)

Jaci Burton said...

Teri, this is just awful for the little ones, and so heartbreaking that their mother can't take good care of them. But so amazing that you're there to step in. You truly are their guardian angel.

And you can only do what you can do. Don't do more than that. You're already giving so much more than most people and families would. Kudos to you and your family for the sacrificies you're making on behalf of the kidlets.

Kristen Painter said...

Sounds like a better solution than last time. Good for you for making it work.

Amanda Ashby said...

Such a sad thing for everyone involved, but, Teri, you and your family are amazing!!